That does really sound like it's working. That is so much better. I can really relate to how you handled it before, I have handled situations much the same, and drove people further away.

Hamster I know you are working so hard, and you are making lots of changes, I hope in time your ex will be able to see this too. In time I hope he will trust you again. I'm sorry that he seems to hang onto his idea of you were very tight. It happens when we get hurt by someone sure.

I know it's not my place, nor my business. And I have never said much about your ex before. But do you think he seems a tad bit controlling? Really I am just asking cause from your posts that's the vibe I get. I could be totally wrong tho too. I just don't like that it seems like you work your but off trying to regain trust, and somewhat of a friendly relationship, and get to see the kids. And then it is continually pulled out from under you or threatened. Again this is just a possibility of what I see from reading here, if no then just ignore this please. I know I don't have all the facts.

Hard to see a friend hurting tho.

BTW.... I am very PROUD of you too!!!!!