Please don't think we are all judging you and calling you a slut. According to your profile you are 18 and you said he was too. That means you are both consenting adults. In my book, there nothing wrong with adults enjoying their sexuality (and doing so in a way that cannot transmit disease.). The only problem is if you don't feel comfortable with doing this sort of thing because it conflicts with YOUR values. Notice I said your values and not parents, friends, etc.

I do think it would help to process this with your t. I notice you emphasize how you didn't want to do things but you were talked into them. If so, you need to work on setting firm boundaries. However (and I don't know you enough to know if this applies to you) many girls feel like they have to half heartedly refuse all sexual advances in order to be seen as a "good girl.". It is sad that women have to feel like this in 2012.

You have lots to sort out here, but don't be upset with yourself. You didn't harm anyone and you can learn from this experience and make a different choice next time (if you want to).

But really, don't call yourself a slut. You are not. We don't think you are. And FWIW, this is coming from a woman who is very repressed/shy/conservative about sex and was a virgin until I got married at 33!

Best,
EJ