hi, new to this site, well, i am afraid and confused depressed and no clue what to do. I am in a 14year relationship living with him for 4 years and i came to realize he has no intentions on marring me. what do i do? where do i go if i leave him. there's more to it as well, i guess i knew for awhile now that i been living in an abusive relationship (verbally) .. I just haven't excepted it until this week. So if i do leave do i just leave everything and go , do i start getting rid of my stuff to make it easier. do i take my dogs with me or leave them , they are my life. oh, i have no job or money which make it a bit harder.