that's just it, his wife DOES know. "big girl stuff." one time I was on the bus passing RIGHT IN FRONT of T's bldg when my phone buzzed, and it was him, cancelling my appt. I was like, sure, no problem, but inside I was RU SERIOUS? I AM LITERALLY OUTSIDE YOUR WINDOW! WAVE TO ME! it was just one session but it was a turning point - I could either be all defeated, my life is a joke, I can't win for losing, or I could say, no biggie, isn't that funny, and just move on. sounds like you are seeing that big picture perspective. sounding all mature n stuff. I hate when that happens!