I was wondering if part of the guilt is actually fear that she may not like you anymore because you said something that might upset you? I feel that way a lot after I tell someone that they hurt me.
Carrie

<font color=green>But the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we're willing to go some distance, but we're not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built, both personally and societally.--Bill Plotkin, Soulcraft