That's very true Myself. When I had my first baby I felt the immense pressure to breastfeed from WIC, then when I stopped when he was 3 months old, I felt ashamed as if I failed. Then I formula fed him, and man did he grow, and he became much happier and fulfilled.

I don't knock formula feeding at all, because I've experienced both. I agree they are very healthy and it does not me or anybody else less of a mother.

But that bond is what I'm mainly encouraging. It's something out of this world, not even describable. The bond I had with my first baby compared to my second was different because of breastfeeding. It wasn't that I had less of a bond with my first, it was something different.

I'll try to describe. Like with my son, he smelt sweet of baby lotion and formula. My daughter smelled sweet and like baby lotion. I held my son and bottle fed him, there isn't that much body connection, accept of course the eye to eye contact (which I find beautiful to of course). But with my daughter, her body was against mine, I felt her heart beat and her warmth. I felt her nurse and knew from feel when she was at her peak of hunger and at her fullest.

It small things like that that I can compare because I've done both. I don't regret going to bottle for my son because he was a 10 pounder and always hungry, he needed more, so I did what was right as a mother and gave him more. It of course depends on the child and mother.....but trying it, at least, is very very important I think, IMO.