How did I hurt my T? Well, I am a bit ashamed to say, but...
A few years back, I was sharing a letter with my T - it was a letter I had written to her in my journal in which I said that I "hated" her for something she had said. My T did not reply to that part of the letter. It was not until I was talking to her about the issue and said, "You know, I don't really hate you and I wish I had not written that" that I saw tears well up in her eyes and I heard her say, "I'm glad you don't hate me." I felt awful and told her that I had not meant to hurt her feelings. She told me that she was human and that her feelings had been hurt but that she was really glad we could both talk about it. I guess that for me, being able to talk about it honestly was the best part.