Lola,
Your T might have been trying to elicit anger by saying what he said, while also teaching you that the reason you haven't cried or felt anger was because you weren't trusting him, weren't being vulnerable. The reason he might want to elicit anger ;would be to help you move forward and help you learn to trust and how to deal with your feelings of vulnerability. Maybe, I don't know. I can't say that I'm in favor of these types of techniques, but I know that they happen. Let us know how things go at your next session. Meanwhile, take care of yourself