I think those are particularly arrogant comments. And are they even true? Being left in a vulnerable place, yes, I understand that-- but saying he could make you cry if he wanted to and he could hurt you if he wanted to? That sounds a bit like a God complex to me. Speaking for myself, my T does not have the power to make me cry. I have more control over my emotions than T does. It's up to each of us how much other people's opinions and actions can affect how we feel, and how we feel about ourselves. It's possible to be vulnerable with T, without being a "puppet" who T can make cry and make hurt at will. I think the goal of T is to learn how to be vulnerable in relationships, but also how to be strong and independent enough that other people's opinions and actions don't hurt us so much. For instance, if we have high self-esteem, others can make negative comments about us, but we don't have to internalize or believe those comments. In general, do you feel safe with your T? Do you find him to be compassionate, or does he often say things that have a hint of arrogance in them? Maybe this was just one, isolated mistake on his part... but if I were in your shoes, I think I'd be pretty taken aback by this.