I think it was very courageous of you to be direct with him about what you thought about what he said.

I'm a fan of the brutal truth. The clients that I work with all know what it means when I say "brutal truth time." I'm not a fan of bullsh*t, either giving or taking. So I would have more respect for my T in your shoes, although I don't disagree with any of the labels you or others have applied to him for how your T said it. I just care less and less about how people say things and am more focused on what they actually say.

I once told my T that I'd played sax in high school and he responded enthusiastically (he's a musician) with "I didn't know that." Yeah, I said, now you know one of my secrets.

"One of several", he said, an oblique reference to the CSA and other experiences I had pretty recently disclosed to him. I winced, but I also shrugged. He was right, and although I probably would have liked to not be reminded, I appreciated that he wouldn't "allow" me to throw out even a tiny denial defence.