I am trying to understand if my depression is part of the bipolar disease or if it is caused (in part) by my husband. After 10 years of being married and being a stay at home mom, my husband abruptly cut me off financially and refused to give me any money -- meaning I had no money to buy food for myself or our kids. After applying for at least 50 jobs, I accepted the only one that was offered to me at $8.00 an hour (I have a college degree). It is an on-call position meaning that I don't have set hours but fill in for people when needed. I average about 15 to 20 hours a week. My average check every two weeks is $160.00 on which I have to buy food to feed our family of five and also gas money to get to work. Sometimes my husband will talk to me, he mostly just ignores me. During the summer when the kids where home from school and I had to go to work, I would come home from work around 3:00 pm to find the kids still in their pajamas, teeth not brushed or hair combed. He lets them sit in front of the television all day or play video games. My youngest (8) gained four pounds this summer from all the inactivity. He doesn't want us to go anywhere, hates it when the kids have playdates, wants us to stay in the house all the time. Then he tells me that he acts the way he does because I make him that way. I know I am not perfect. But maybe after years of depression, a two week hospital stay, ECT treatment and a ton of different meds...............maybe it's not me. Could it be him?