Your husband is an abusive idiot, get rid of him asap. What kind of FATHER REFUSES TO FEED HIS OWN KIDS?! sorry, but his behavior is disgusting, I'm pretty sure I threw up a little in my mouth reading that. Get rid of the loser, you AND your kids deserve BETTER!
so sorry your struggling, dont blame the bp, a saint would have problems handling your issues,
sorry I was harsh, these things get my back up against the wall...