My wife of 13 years has been accusing me of infidelity since we were married. I have never even had an inappropriate conversation with another. She also constantly tells me how I feel about a situation when it just isn't true. She will not ask me how I feel about something, or tell me she is concerned about possible infidelity, it is always an accusation. She of course is never at fault when we have a disagreement. She suffers from low self esteem and insecurity, facts she revealed early in our relationship. I know she has many disturbing issues from her past, a couple that she imposed upon herself. Is there a name for this behavior? I am an adult child of an alcoholic compounded by adult ADD and am currently working with a counselor and know my defensive reations to her behavior are rooted there. Just realizing where my behavior has come from has given me great hope and a renewed confidence. I know it is not my fault. I want her to know her behavior is not her fault either but she needs to get the counseling she so we can heal and come together as man and wife. By the way, she has left me, filed for divorce, put the divorce on hold and we are both seeking counseling. I am most disturbed because she cannot seem to grasp the "no fault" realization which is necessary to begin communicating and healing. SOMEBODY HELP ME WITH THE WORDS TO SAY TO HER! WHAT DO YOU CALL THIS BEHAVIOR OF HERS????
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