I can't seem to find a group of people on this site that can relate to my intense insecurities about my bf's. Perhaps it belongs in this category??

I have always had complete inability to accept my bf's and (now ex) hub looking at other women & "appreciating" their beauty. I become immediately infuriated, insecure, and a strong part of me is just dying to tell him to go F her if they want her that badly! Pretty intense reaction, I know. The only thing that stops me from allowing myself to yell these words at them is my fear of losing them due to my intense insecurity.

Am I an unusual extremist in here too? I can't stand myself for being so insecure, but I also feel SO intense on this subject...I can't see my perspective ever changing on this subject, which can become a HUGE issue in my romantic relationships.