Wow. You have a lot of issues going between the struggles you are having and that of your wife. I think that it's a good move for you to be in counseling.....your wife REALLY!!! needs to be in therapy too. Do you know what her Dx is? Are you both gong to marriage counseling? Do both of you want to restore the marital relationship ?

From what I know it takes 2 pple committed to a relationship to make it work. Also, her problems aren't going to go away unless she gets some help. I haven't seen many problems just disappear on their own.

It sounds like your wife has a low self-esteem of herself and that she is very insecure. Are you able to help her at all with these issues?

You have a lot on your plate and so does your wife. While I am no expert I have ben married for 23 yrs.....and our relationship has had many bumps along the way.

I don't know if this help any..I hope so......please let us know how its going, ok?

Sweet

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