Thank you Sky, Rap, Myself...

I can see where short term intense focus on a particular event or trauma could be beneficial, like you stated Myself..but you stated a friend helped..what if it had been a stranger..no attachment ..because these ppl are not really your friend, and do not have a vested interest in developing a therapeutic relationship..would you of allowed a perfect stranger, someone who really didnt know you at all to "Coach" you ..there an advocate yes, and I get the feeling its all about "empowering oneself to do the work in a very dynamic, and abbrievated time"..but they dont want the strings attached to it... with the client..the relationship is not developed over time, there is an almost rushed feeling to "fix it quick"..I think that is where I have an issue..especially with Trauma based work..if you are going to "Coach" someone thru an event..maybe it may work if it is more recent (the trauma) like you would do a debriefing type therapy..but if the concept of your issues being like a "suitcase" that you can unpack and leave in the office ...I would think that most Therapists would jump at the chance not to see there clients suffering from years of built up pain and agony that revolves around trauma..and I am definitely all for empowering and healing..but mmmm...maybe its a trust issue....trust is usually developed over time isn't it? Maybe thats my hang up...maybe Coaching doesnt involve the "trust" factor..ya know the exercise where someone stands behind you..and your willing to just fall back.."trusting" that the person behind you will indeed catch you and not let you fall smack into the floor..mmmm..I dont think I would do that with a total stranger..no matter how much they "Coached" me to just "let go"..

I am very concerned that Coaches appear to carrry all sorts of Behavioral Health certifications, including Ph.Ds, but why when they are under the blanket of coaching certain things dont apply, vs when they are under the blanket of psychotherapy they do...mmmm..again sounds like a way to break free of the constraints put in place by standards adopted and enforced by associations to protect the client..i.e...oh that wasnt psychotherapy when I did such and such...but coaching..so their rules dont apply...

Just confusing for me...but I thank you for your replies..much fodder to take in concerning the issue..alot to digest...and thank you Myself for all the great info