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Sep 03, 2012, 04:55 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Dearheart, you THINK you don't measure up. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else is. My guess is that you would measure up just as good as anyone else!!!
Why do you think you would not measure up? Is it your looks? I don't believe it, because like I said before, I would bet that you're a VERY good looking guy but you are just too judgmental about yourself. We NEVER are satisfied about ourselves -- I'm not either! But others see us differently. Others see us attractive and handsome/pretty!!!
Is it your clothes? You can find great looking clothes at thrift stores if you can't afford new. And I'm not kidding! I've seen clothes with the price tag still on them, and they're great looking and from expensive stores! Go looking at some thrift stores --- and dont' be embarassed about going there, cause I've seen even supposedly "well off" people in there, which surprised me! LOL
Don't be so hard/harsh about yourself. You need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. And that's true cause I learned that thru years of therapy. I have a sticker on my mirror that says : "You are looking at the problem" and that is SO true! I am my own worst enemy -- and I have to work daily at overcoming that. 
You must start too. You must start to BELIEVE that you are a handsome, GOOD, worthy of love, kind and wonderful person! And you have to learn to love yourself! Start today! And keep me informed, will you. We can talk privately if you like. Private message me if you want to. I'll be there. Hugs, Lee 
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