I will echo Whenwillitend.. if something upsets you-- you are upset -- it is ok to be upset, it does not matter if others see what you are upset about or not.

However this is something I question a lot of times too Sesto...

I am not sure your background... mine is a I have a tad bit of anger issues... I have triggers from past things that happen in the now a days... among other things..

but just a suggestion...
Some times I question of "should I be upset" due to some times I do realize that a trigger has happened - I may NOT know exactly at the time, but Some times I need to assets things.... I need to sometimes "think out side of the box" try best to take myself and see from other angles-- it can be quiet hard, some times I am not great at it either..

And some times I do need some time, come back to what upset me, and see if it really is that big as I thought it was.. and if it is, why it has upset me, and what can be a solution to feel better.... that too can be hard.

I hope you well, and that you feel better, and that maybe some of that helped,

and sorry we did not never mind it