I can connect to this a bit... My parents aren't that blatant about it, but emotions were definitely not something we did in my famliy. Anything at all that invalidates my feelings is a huge trigger for me.

What I ended up doing is just not really sharing emotional things with my family. It keeps the relationship pretty superficial, but I find "family" type relationships with my wife and friends. I did finally tell them this year, after over 20 years, that I suffer from depression. But I did it more as a way to not feel like I am hiding my real self from people, I wasn't really expecting emotional support in any way.

Not sure this is helpful at all, but I certainly understand your feelings and how that would bring up childhood sht! I would be a mess if something like that happened. And my own opinion is that it's okay that it bothered you, it makes perfect sense. In my experience I cannot necessarily control my reactions to a trigger (though I'm working on it slowly...), but I can control to a degree what triggers I expose myself to. That's why my family relationship is distant, I have to protect myself. Take care and thanks so much for posting this!