My question is if he treated you like that before he cut you off financially. Were you not allowed to go anywhere, him blamming you for everything, and so on before that happened? Or did it all start at the same time?

Because if his attitude was bad before, then I say yes he is an abusive *** and his abuse is getting worse. If not and this is all new behavior, then maybe there is something wrong with him such as depression, but it is no excuse to cut your wife and kids off. And no excuse to be emotionally abusive. And, I'm sorry, verbally abusive too "I'm this way because you make me." You put a gun to his head and tell him, "Treat me like crap your I'll blow your brains out." No? Didn't think so...

I'm sorry to say but cutting your kids off from money to buy food is physical abuse. It's neglect and endangerment of a child. I know for a fact that feeding a family of 5 on $160 plus gas on top of that means struggling just to have a full belly at night. In the state where I live I think they could care less about if you abandon an adult spouse with a mental illness (probably even a physical one,) but doing the same thing to your kids is punishable by law.