Candy, hi and welcome to the boards....sorry for my late welcome. We are neighbors btw, very close distance-wise.

You're not stupid, you're doing what I have done also - things for everyone else and not yourself because you think you have to. Let me emphasize, you do not have to do things for other people, unless you want to.

It is your birthday, it comes once - please take the time to enjoy what rightfully belongs to you. Yes, it will cause some issues, but that isn't anything new, right? What would be great is having "your day" be with people that genuinely care about you and enjoying yourself.

Your stress will make you sicker - no one is worth that in my opinion. For one day, do what you want........please.

Have a good birthday.

Mary Alice