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Sep 04, 2012, 07:09 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Why CAN'T you tell him how it made you feel, for heavens sakes??? I don't say that to be judgmental sweetie, really, but he made me mad. LOL
My parents were very emotionless and we got NO affection as children. But after I grew up, we grew to have a better relationship ONLY because I was open with them, and told them what I thought! I had been in a mental hospital in my 20's and my "shrink" MADE me write a letter to my parents telling them how my childhood had messed me up big-time! And she made me MAIL it too!  So after that, we had a more open/honest relationship.
If that had been MY dad saying that, I surely would have asked him "Why CAN'T I cry and carry on? Why does it bother YOU? I'll handle this MY way, thank you!" And then I'd stare right back at HIM!!!
You're 31 yrs old and he has NO RIGHT to try to run your life. He's already taught you your life's lessons. If you haven't learned them by now, then it's too late. LOL I'm SURE you can handle what you have going, but you were just having a BAD DAY. When things fall apart all at once, we tend to fall apart too, and that's just FINE. Crying is a GOOD cleanser and stress reliever, in case he didn't know it. 
Ask your therapist about crying when stressed and see if he agrees that it's good for easing stress. I think he'll agree.
Anyway -- Dad was wrong. He owes YOU an apology as far as I'm concerned. It's none of his business. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee
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