Yes I would and have. I needed help in parenting skills so I took two different parenting classes from parenting coaches. one was a licensed therapist when she was not teaching parents how to appropiately parent their child(ren) and the other was not a therapist.
I needed help in controling my anger. For this I also went through coaching by taking an anger management class that did not deal with looking beyond the anger to my abusive past. the person just focused on teaching me appropiate ways to handle and express my anger no matter why I was angry be it form the past, having a challenging child or something in the normal every day life p#$$ed me off. I did not know the coach personally. I just picked up the phone and registered for the coaching classes and went to them sight unseen,
In both the parenting classes and anger management classes I benefitted more because we were dealing with specific situations in my present life not digging beneath the surface riling things up because regardless of what abuse I went through I still had to manage the present day stuff.
Regardless of the fact that I had been hit as a child todays standards do not allow a parent to take a belt to their child. I could talk until I was blue in the face over a space of months with my therapist about getting hit as a child with a belt but that was not going to teach me right then what I need to know to bring my child home within the DHS time frame that was set.
All emotions aside I had to learn new skills on how to deal with not the past but the present and that is what coaches are for. they deal with today the present and only today the present. Because they are not looking behind the sceens so to speak they don't need to know the person personally to teach them new skills that will help them today.
Kind of like learning a new language. a coach can teach a person how to speak and write french fluently without knowing them personally and digging below the surface as to the whys whens and hows of that persons past. its not improtant for that coach to know for example that the person had a french speaking relative and so on.
Im not a certified or licensed teacher but yet I can and have taught children how to read and write.
Im not a certified and licensed music instructor but have taught children how to read music and how to play some basic chords and scales and a few songs.
Years and years ago before Freud and pavlov and so on how did people learn to survive, a trade skill and so on - from those that knew how to do that - a mother taught the girls in the familys how to breast feed. teachers taught children and some of those children became teachers, a blacksmith taught others how to shoe horses, Candlemakers taught others whether or not they personally met them how to make candles, people who knew how to work in the mines taught newer miners how to mine whether or not they were meeting them for the first time. None of these people in those days had behavioral health certificates and other therapy based certificates.
the idea of "coaching" isn't new, its just a new label for something that has always been going on. Kind of like a person who cleans was suddenly calling themselves janitors and now that name has once again been changed to Custodians, - the word Janitor sounds more professional then cleaners, and the word custodians sounds more professional then janitors.
Coaches takes the place ot the word teacher. and anyone who knows anything about something can teach another person what they know about a product, trade, skill and so on. Even you. I bet there is something that you know how to do that someone else does not know how to do.
I taught someone how to use hypnotic techniques. Why not. I dissociate - use relaxation and visualization to calm myself and I am so good at it that I can completely mentally relax myself into my mental visualization called La La Land to the point where I actually feel like I am floating and hearing the music I imagine and so on.
So when another member of the parenting class asked me how to do the relaxation visualizations that the coaches were having us do in class and she could not do it their way I taught her how to progressive relaxation and staring at a spot until her eyes got blurry and the spot seemed to disapear and her eyes felt tired, then taught her to focus on her senses to bring the visualization into forming pictures in her mind.
another example of coaching - Parents are natural coaches for their children - teaching them how to dress themselves, how to feed themselves, go potty themselves, clean their rooms and pick up their toys, put bandaids on boo boos, relax their children to sleep, and so on -- do parents recieve a certificate to enable them to teach their children? of course not but they are able to do these things every day of their childs life without being a therapist, doctor, and so on.
Hang in there. the wording may be confusing but the concept and so on has been around a long time. Take out the official wording and it may make better sense to you.
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