Hey. I read your thread on your link. I still have not figured out how to do that link thing. Oh well. I wanted to respond to your thread. I know how your H feels. I have PTSD. I can understand where your H is coming from with porn. I have connection issues and do not want any sexual contact or any contact period. I just don't want an emotional investment I guess. My H and I have sex because thats what married people do. But if we never had it again it would suit me fine. It is not the sex I'm against it's the connection and emotional availability. I watch porn. I like it. (Yep I'm female and watch porn) Even weirder considering what happened in the past. But thats another story for another time. We are talking about you here. "Things" work just fine alone or w/ porn. There is no emotional connection. My H will watch it with me sometimes and NOTHING ZILCH ZERO as far as making things happen when he is there. It has to be me or me and porn. It is the connection thing. Things work fine for him though. It requires considerably less time for him if he watches porn. So I let him, it gets it over with faster.

We have started T together. It is helping a tiny little bit. It turns out that in the quest for finding the way to deal w/ this trauma so many more triggering events came up and now we have lots to work on. We had to table the one major event an sort threw all the small events in first. YIPEE! (Not) But it has given my H a little more perspective on where I am coming from and it is helping him to make changes to get the desired result from me. I actually touched my H on the leg for the first time since we dated 18 years ago probably. I thought he was gonna choke on his tea. It was nerve racking but baby steps. So to make a long story short T helps and the viewing of porn has nothing to do w/ you. We all need a release and thats one way to get it w/ out an emotional connection. I hope this has helped you and not made you think yuck what a weirdo.