Mandy oh gosh hon I don't know what to say. My mom was my abuser as well and I for one kept going back for more. Meaning I couldn't just walk away from the relationship. That to me is against the rules of honor thy father and mother.
As far as her stealing honey I am sure she knows it is wrong. I would let the chips fall where they may on this. You can not control what she does but I would not accept anymore of the "gifts" from her. Unless of course she provides a receipt letting you know she really bought the item. Yes is she gets caught she is going to jail, but if you get caught with items she took then you go to jail. (((hugs)))