just a question,why do you refer the word "gay"?! Being obsessed with other same-sex people is common I can see and I don't truly believe that it has something to do with real homosexuality-bisexuality,but with low self-esteem.I had almost the same problem with my best same sex friend as I said but I've never seen her in a sexual way for the love of god.Why did u confuse it with homosexual feelings?