Sounds like you are doing a lot of mind reading? You don't know what she is thinking unless she tells you. I think that it would be really good to clear all of this stuff up with her in session. I had to learn to quit assuming. What I did was check all of my assumptions and guess what? I was always wrong! After awhile I realized what a waste of time it is to assume and mind read so now if someone doesn't tell me something I have no idea what they are thinking. It cured me of my assuming anything, once you get a 100% wrong track record. But to get started, you need to check all of your assumptions.