When I do make eye contact, it's dead on, like I'm looking through him, although Im actually looking at his upper lip. Especially when I wanna say something but I'm afraid, I bite the bullet, zone in on the lip and spill It... Them it's back to lid on , lid off ,lid on , lid off as he responds.. I find it empowering, or maybe I think he thinks I'm not scared, if I look when I tell.