They probably are busy, or have some reason for not replying or not replying right away. Maybe they are still thinking on what they want to stay, maybe they keep thinking about it but a lot on their plate. You know what happens to me, I think about what I want to say, but I usually have a lot on my plate, then I come back to it again, then I feel guilty for not replying in a timely manner, then I think it's too late. Then I think what if the person is upset with me, then I procrastinate more because it makes me anxious. I don't have the healthiest thought process going on here either.
Maybe sometimes the person didn't see it, maybe if you text or msg someone it didn't even arrive on their end. There are so many reasons that could have absolutlely nothing to do with you. But I understand your thought process here.
Why does it get to you so much? I don't know. Over thinking it might be part of it. Maybe a tendency to fear being rejected or an automatic response to go to the negative. I am guilty of this too, and I think every one does from time to time.
But if it really gets the best of you, maybe trying to figure out why exactly you feel so strongly about it, what exactly about it bothers you so much, then you can try to work on the root of it. It probably won't go away until you fix the underlying problem.
Low self esteem, fear of rejection, negative thought patterns... only you really know.
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