Well, I've also been in that spot. Either sabotaging or freakishly anxious waiting... You know why I stopped? I was wasting precious moments of happiness.Robbing myself! THAT was unacceptable! How could I be unhappy about being unhappy if I was causing my unhappiness! So, I learned to live IN the moment, not by myself mind you, I'm not all knowing. My friends here, taught me about breaking obstacles into small chunks, and Barney(HIMYM)said 'thats future Barney's problem' and I still use them both