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I don't have memories of what caused my DID but I know a lot about my alters... My main alter, Sophie, who is a sex alter, has an addiction to being abused. I just left a BF who also had DID and his alters were abusive to me (against my will) and him and his alters were abusive to Sophie during sex because she asked them to be.
In a break with this BF I ended up with a pretty normal bloke, who wasn't abusive. Sophie managed to convince him to choke her during sex. Now that I've broken up with my BF I'm getting close to another guy, who is very anti-violence. I'm happy with this because after what happened with my ex's alters being abusive to me I want to be as far away from that type of thing as possible. But Sophie still wants it.
I'm not in therapy so I can't help her that way. But I absolutely refuse to let her try to get this guy to treat her violently. I have liked him for a long time and he is the sweetest guy I have ever met and there is no chance whatsoever of her going anywhere near him. But I need a way to make this happen. How do I convince her to keep away from him? She likes to write erotica and explore her rape and abuse fantasies through them but I don't think it's enough for her, hence why she told my ex in advance that if she said no to sex that he should just force her to do it.
I'll probably tell the new guy all of this in time, but I don't want anything like that to happen with him. I don't think he would do it even if she begged though. But what can I do to help her and stop her from doing this? I really don't know... Waiting for therapy but it could be ages away :/...
Kaz x
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