Sometimes assertiveness can be misinterpreted as being a ***** especially in women. Our society has a stereotype of women being nice, pleasant and sweet. When we buck this stereotype we are sometimes seen as a *****.
I don't want to see myself as a *****. But, I do want to learn how to express my anger in a socially acceptable way that might help me to resolve it when it comes up. In other words, I would like to work on being more assertive. My T kind of likes the word assertive. She tells me to be assertive at work in asking for days off to talk to her.
I don't find it offensive if you proudly where the label as long as you are clear on the definition your using which you are. So, have a good time standing up for yourself. We all need to do that at times.