((((((Candy))))))))

I just want you to know that I can relate. I sure am glad I don't live too close to my sister, who is a psychiatrist, and who also was responsible for the origins of a lot of my problems. She was a little clone of our mother when we were kids. Anyway, I can just see what it would be like to live near her, let alone with her, and need to find therapy. Therapists should be able to maintain confidentiality, but sisters are often not good at keeping their noses out of things, and she would somehow manage to present herself as a helpful consultant. In fact, even from a distance my sister offered to consult with my doctor about medications (she's got lots of ideas she would like to try), and has suggested diagnoses and told me what kind of treatment I should receive. She does more of the same with the rest of our siblings too.

But I really do hope that you can get the support and help that you need. I can feel that you are struggling right now. Maybe one of those jobs will come through soon, and I hope it does, but if it doesn't then I hope you will find a therapist you can go to. Most of them would understand family dynamics and if you told them specifically about your concerns about your sister, I do believe that they would handle it appropriately and help you to maintain appropriate boundaries.

Rap