Wow sidestepper.....This latest leaves me speechless, and so sad that you had to endure all this crap. Seriously, I feel terrible for you and only wish I had a magic wand to wave. I think the word "incompetence" does not even begin to explain this. Shame on people who say they're there to help, and then this happens. Otherwise, all I want to say is that regardless of what reality wants, I know I want you around.....and I'm still hoping for "happy" (for you).....hmm, not even sure what I'm aiming for anymore. Hugs ~whimsy