You completely misinterpreted the point I made. When did I refer to others expectations of u OR a disabled person? frankly I have no idea how you got THAT message from my post. Idk why you perceive this thread to be out of hand, is it becoz some disagreed? Anyway,I was merely asking u to cut yourself some slack, that 'defective' is not a beneficial adjective to use when describing yourself. But u know what,I know when someone is twisting my words to suit their mindset, we can chat when you're ready