I understand that. It's like no one quite gets it and I think it just makes them tired and pushes them away.

The school counselor is definitely a good option.

As for crisis hotlines, I've never actually called, but I have used a chat one. I've been looking all over and I cannot find it anymore, but they are out there. A lot of them also offer texting if that is more comfortable for you. Please reach out to them, they can't give you advice, but they've sure gotten me through sometimes.