It's really disappointing to hear that you have such a negative view of gay women. There are so many amazing gay women out there (myself included ). I think this may be a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy-- if you feel negatively towards gay women and you think that being gay sucks, then that means you are harboring self-hatred-- and if you put that negative energy out there, you're only going to attract negative energy in return (hence, attracting sociopaths!) In order for you to attract a higher caliber of woman, you have to FIRST work on your own negative feelings towards gay women (including yourself). Until you can overcome your negative feelings about being gay, you're not ready to be in a partnership. To even try to date a woman before you've dealt with this (in my opinion) would be setting yourself (and her) up for a bad outcome. In fact, this is the reason my last relationship ended. She was where you are-- she had negative feelings about gay women and about herself and was not ready to examine and overcome them-- I kept thinking that I could help her do that and then we'd have a wonderful relationship-- but she wasn't ready for that. That's something she had to do, on her own, at her pace. It was pretty heartbreaking for me, but I had to learn that when someone harbors that kind of negativity (and self-negativity) they just aren't ready to be in a healthy, positive, and productive relationship. When you have that kind of negativity inside, the only thing it can do is poision your relationship. I realize it's hard, though. It's something all of us lesbian women have had to deal with and overcome. But, once you do, you'll start to understand what's wonderful about being a gay woman and being part of that community. Because, even though it may be difficult in our current soceity to be a lesbian woman, I wouldn't change it for anything. I love who I am and I love everything about being in a relationship with a woman.