I don't mean to be rude, but this was not helpful. Referencing the fact that your boyfriend had no trouble with it means nothing to me. Great, I'm happy that he has a healthy mentality. I recognize that I do not and that I need help fixing it.
I understand that this is my issue, and I am asking HOW to get over it. I want to be with him. Telling me to "get over it" is not constructive. You really shouldn't answer if you have nothing to add but that I am "over-reacting", as I clearly know that I am, and have identified that as the problem.
My point with saying that nobody will fit my "mold of purity" was that I
know that it is unrealistic, so it makes me feel incredibly hopeless that even if I were to break up with my current boyfriend, I would never be able to find someone else that would make me happy
if I keep this current mindset. Which is why I would like to change it.
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Originally Posted by brokenandalone1234
You are totally over reacting that is the past. If you can't let the past go than you don't need to be with him.My ex fiance was a virgin when I met him and I had a few sexual encouters with men before him. He completly understood that it was part of my past and it never changed anything between us. I didn't cheat on him that's what mattered. As long as he didn't cheat on you with any of those girls than there is nothing wrong with what he did. He is a young guy and many young guys do that. They have many sexual partners. You are expecting too much from a man at that age to be a virgin. You really need to decide can you handle it or are you going to walk away.Its not fair to him that you are pissed about his past. The past is the past and you need to move on.
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