My boyfriend and I talk about everything and we've beat this topic to death, really. My problem was that I misunderstood what he was saying and filled in the blanks with my own preconceptions. Our communication is not an issue at all.
I am currently in therapy, but it is not helping with this problem. I would like another point of view so I can get over this.
I clearly stated in my post that I understand that he is a separate person and he is entitled to his own life. Unfortunately, knowing this rationally does not change how I
feel about the situation. I need help "coping with emotions"... as per the title of the forum.
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Originally Posted by hankster
I would get into therapy if I were you, and try to understand why you feel compelled to stay with a person whose values are so different from yours. You never really discussed them, you just assumed they were the same, then one day you found out, and now you're devastated. What else don't you two talk about? And you don't seem to be able to appreciate him as a separate person, but just as an extension of yourself, which makes me wonder if that's how you were raised? Cos that's how I was raised, and it left me blind to my partners' realities. I simply did not see what I didn't want to see.
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