It's both a moral thing and it makes me feel like I am sharing him with all the other women. If I thought that he regretted it, I'd feel as if I wasn't missing part of him, but in my mind, however distorted this thinking is, he cannot love me completely if he feels those relationships were valuable.
Do you have any suggestions to get over this?
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Originally Posted by ryc0v
I may be cripplingly old fashioned, but I do think there's something wrong with that many casual partners on that time frame - I'm a sex in relationships kind of guy - and when I break that I generally feel crap for months (However I'm 22 and have had 3 sexual partners - enforced by me, generally (ironically, 2 were 'casual' in the sense that there was no formal relationship ('taking it easy and simple' they said), but they lasted a few months and were solely with the same people).
It's normal for you to be jealous in this case, and I definitely don't think you should be happy that he enjoyed himself in that way! :P
Are your objections of his lifestyle because of your moral code, or just because it makes you feel unimportant/unloved? Or is it because it makes you feel like you're not taking advantage of life?
Don't beat yourself up so much about it - you're definitely not alone (and I don't think that normal human beings enjoy having sex with random people either - but again, I'm an unconventional conservative).
Try to resist punching him in the face.  |