Umm but it's his child too, and no one could predict her getting sick, this is a responsibility for both parents. If you have to live like a single mother, might as well be a single mother. At least then you can live in peace.

Have you tried marriage counselling ? Sorry if you already said and I missed it. If you two have talked in depth about this with one another, and then nothing still changes, or he doesn't show an interest in taking any responsibility in the marriage, or the parenting. Then I guess I would really start making a plan to get out.

If it is depression then he needs to get himself some help. Either way he needs to get himself some help. Marriages can't work if one person holds grudges and resentment. Hanging you past mistakes over you isn't right.

I am not an american, but I did watch your president speak last night. He was talking about two different paths. Either the.... we are in this together, we all are responsible together, and work together, cooperate, to make this work and get better, or the other path ... we are all on our own, one man for himself.

Reminds me of this tho, because right now seems like you are in this on your own, except it's a relationship, and the whole word relationship cannot be defined by - on your own.

Unless he decides he wants to take responsibility to be a partner in this I just don't see how it can work. I am divorced with three kids, when I was married I was basically a single parent, I was terrified of being a single parent, I just didn't realize I already was one. When I got divorced, and got to experience peace and harmony within my home, without all the abuse of my husband, wow being a true single parent was actually a lot easier.

Kinda sounds like right now you are a single parent to five kids.