This is a really good question and topic. It was extremely difficult for me to find the right people to confide in and ask for help. I too stepped back for a while. Then somehow, I realized that people can only give what they can. And I knew what people could handle and what they had to share. Then when I needed somebody I went to the person or people who were able to give me what I needed at that moment. I didn't often tell people if they offended me, unless I was really close to them. I came to realize that my friends weren't counselors and I couldn't expect them to do and say the right thing. It's hard to hear that someone you care about has been violated, especially if you haven't been there before or haven't dealt with your own stuff. Even though I was in a really needy space I needed to be patient with my friends. They had stuff they needed to process too about what I was telling them. It's not an easy road but I'm sure you'll find your way. Good luck! Annie