Yes, it is wrong. But on the flip side, it's also wrong to push yourself on her. Always just let her know to ring your phone when she needs you or anything. DO NOT send her msg after msg. This will make it ten times worse. You really have to practice "selflessness" in this situation if you truely love her and are patient. Patience, patience patience.....I can't stress it enough. And yes she will be rude, sometimes cut you to the bone, but take it with a grain of salt, she doesn't mean it. It's kinda like "tourettes" is the best way to describe it. I know cause I've done it. Find a way to get her to a Dr. even if you have to make the appointment. But ask her first. And anxiety is the worse for me. Makes me aggitated, mean, distant, and just plain psychotic. Also, she needs to sleep to help with the anxiety so she can think a little straighter. We were discussing that in a thread on sleep just down the page. Someone mentioned "valarian root" or something like that and also a tea you can get at the "Earth Fare" store. Can't remember that name. She could try to drink some of that in the evening to calm down. She seems to have a lot going on and has taken on too much, maybe "mania" setting in too. If she doesn't get a hold on herself or clear more off her plate, she may loose more than she wants to. Thanks for helping her and if your strong enough it will pay off and she will love you for it.