Unfortunately you can not undo the past, but it is possible to start giving yourself that which you never received from other people, and should have.... (including your parents.) It's not always easy, but hopefully.....probably with the help of a caring therapist, it is a possibility. (And btw, I'm there too.) "God give me the Serenity to accept that which I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Best wishes to you......