Thank you so much. I've had a bit of experience w bp. I know she doesn't mean to hurt me bc she's always trying to fix or make things ok quickly if I'm upset. I don't blow her up message wise bc I know that doesn't help. She's always asking how she was lucky enough to find someone who is so selfless.. her ex was extremely narcissistic and she felt like shed lost herself. I'm verybusy but her new schedule puts mine to shame so we already don't spend much time together typicallyonly at her request which is where I'm now conflicted whether I should appear less avail until she's seen a dpoctor for a check up