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Originally Posted by anthony81
Since this is a guys' section..
Guys I just HATE it when I get that random out of nowhere huge erection in the middle of the day, first thing in the morning, or just sitting on the bus.
It also sucks when it happens on a date you're really hot for after some light touching, but you know she will not take it further that night.
Do you ever experience this? What about the phenomonen called "blue balls" in that she has you all worked up on a date but on your way home (alone) you feel that stinging pain down there?
What do you guys do in this situations to cope?
Are there better alternatives to masturbation?
I may have come off a bit strong in earlier forum posts but maybe I was asking the wrong gender. After all only a fellow male experiences exactly the same feelings and therefore understands me, right?
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It's been awhile since somebody responded to this post, but I thought I would respond anyways. Perhaps behind your question of what you said of being frustated of what to do about getting an errection when you don't want to at times is what is normal for getting errections? Some men have trouble getting an errection at all, and others, especially younger men can sometimes fall into the other extreme of getting an errection frequently. So, part of the situation is understanding if you are a younger guy, particularly around 30 years old or younger, you may be just a normal guy with a normal sex drive for your age.
The second thing to consider in response to you question of what to do in these uncomfortable situations as you said is to 1) As I said realize you might be very normal is this 2) consider how you view women. Our thoughts determine our behaviours. If a man is thinking about sex all the day, then he might be more likely to get errections and want to act on that. However, if a man is learning to temper is sexual drive with an understanding of women in a healthy way, he may have less of a problem with what your talking about. For example, if you stop to think that women are people like men (although different in many ways), and women want to be looked at like people and respected like people, this kind of thinking may help you.
Finally, I can relate to what you say, for at times I have been where you are. Although it can be difficult, try to relax, consider talking about this with someone you trust whether it be a counselor or someone at your church if you go like a pastor or priest.