Oh boy, you asked for it, here it is.
I went through that whole temporal lobe b.s. and got absolutely nowhere with it. The probes, the eeg, the scan...BULL$HT!...sorry that's my conclusion.
I didn't get anywhere until I took the lead in finding a few different pdocs (they all have different methods and philosophies of treatment...including none) that basically said, "OK, it's your life, you recognize there are things you'd like to see improved, let's see if this particular med will help".
By keeping me in the loop and emphasiing there is NO one pill to fix what ail's ya, but to watch for helpful effects from a med or two, I was able to cope and prosper.
I've been reading you particular posts, LMo, and while I would agree the problems you're experiencing with husb. are ADD related I believe there is more to it than that, especailly regarding the job thing.
Job=self survival...that has to transcend ADD issues