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Originally Posted by Silversand
My alters say i am not the original, but i am the current host. My T has no objections. Acutally, for me, there is a front group who manage the life. I think i carry the body and am the one who's supposed to be seen and forget things. But my Protectors have told T and me that i am only the front alter because they allow it.
I think all systems are different. There was no book to tell us how and how not to. My T says every system develops the way it should be for the person. There will be similarities but there will also be differences.
I read where in some systems there is no host but a group of alters could act as host, switching places as needs warrant.
BTW, i'm from NY state.
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That is an interesting thought. My alters do switch when the situation calls for it. They come and go at will as long as they don't put the body in trouble. As long as no one will notice. If someone notices a difference in presentation I step in and sort it out and get us back on track. So people at work know me to be one way, my family know me to be another way and my friends no me to be another way. In fact I have different groups of friends who each understand me to be a certain way. I almost never have all my friends in the same place because I don't know how to be. It's like worlds colliding. Needless to say I don't have many barbeques. My t responded to an email I sent her today about this subject. She explained that an alter can be the host if the original has gone away. I don't know who the original is. That is something I would like to know. So for now I am most likely the host. And that is fine. I do wonder where I will go when the original returns. I suppose I should start giving that some thought. I know I will go in but I don't know where I will fit in. We all have to fit. That's why we are in therapy.