For me forgivness of oneself and acceptance go hand in hand cannot have one with out the other. I accept what I have done, accept the concequenses, accept the lesson, accept that I have faults, and accept the repsonsibility to change the actions that caused the problem.

After that I can accept the choice to let it go and move forward. Maybe if I choose not to fogive myself, I won't learn the lessons, I won't grow, and maybe I wont accept what I have done, or responsibility, and have to repeat all over again. Except with more and more resentment towards myself each time .

Thats just my thought on it. I think this would all be in line with being authentic.Seeing the truth of yourself for what it is and accepting it, not excusing it.

But then again I think forgiving others is something I do for myself, not them. They may never even have known I did or that there was a problem. I would be the one feeling the anger,bitterness, or resentment, they might not be . And I can forgive them, but that does nothing to heal them really, they would have to fogive themselves and others to heal their own feelings. My forgiveness of others might only serve as a doorway for them to forgive their own self, and vice versa.