No disrespect taken "Dubble". I love constructive critisim. It builds character. So, let's look at it in a different light. If we could forget, would it not be easier to forgive.......or would not remembering even need forgiveness? That's the problem. We can't forget, and with the dysfunctional brain cells we have, it is even harder to forgive with the intense thoughts that are brought to the surface because of a trigger. Ok....so the forgive and forget crap is out the window....not gonna happen. It's' not that we can forgive so much as we need to not react when presented with the situation that we were supposed to forgive for in the first place. Everyday is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we react to it. So, the truth, we never really forgive.........we just don't react in a manner that shows we remember. Hope this makes sense to everyone.